- What is The Measure of Success
- What Is The True Measure of Success
- What is The Measure of Success in Life
What Is The True Measure Of Success
Today’s topic is about the true measure of success. I was asked by a guy today, “Is it wrong that I only see passion in success?” Talking about success and what it means to be successful, and he was having problems finding what it is he wants to do in life. He’s a young guy. He wants to find out what he wants to do in life. He hasn’t been able to find what his calling is. And for him, he’s just passionate about success. Now when he asked me the question, I was baffled. I was like, what does that mean? And I thought for a second, because for me, success has always been very, very clear. When he asked that question, I was really taken back and I had to think back about what it actually means and what he means by that.
For him, he’s just passionate about success, but he has no direction yet. He’s quite a young guy. So it was quite common for young people to do that. But then I started thinking about other men that I know, men who had quite a few years under their belt. They’ve tried a couple of different careers and they still find it hard to measure what success is like for them. And I started thinking, what was it for me and what is a success for me? How do I come to know exactly what success is and how did I come to measure success? Now the answer is each one of us will measure success differently. Success comes down to once we have our calling, once we have our values, once we know where we want to go to and what is our purpose in life.
Once we’ve worked that out, then it is quite easy for us to measure success. And I’ve thought back over the story, something that happened to me in my late twenties, it was a real eye-opener. So, I was at a 5-day long Peak Performance event. There were about 5,000 people in the event and lots of people were quite wealthy. At the time, I was struggling with my finances. I was trying to build a business and I was really struggling to get up to be quite profitable. We were working in groups, I was whining and whining about my financial situation and I’d been trying this business for a few years and I haven’t gotten anywhere that I want. And, then on the third or fourth day, the speaker turns around to me and picks me out of 5,000 people.
Now, every day we had a different thing. And for that particular day, the thing was relationships. It was interesting how he picked me. He actually chose people on purpose. He had a process that the trainers would get back to him and then he would choose the one that he wants. On that day, he started asking about my life and I said, “Man, I went to your event a couple of years ago. You really opened up my eyes. And I went out and I started changing things in my life. I started having bigger goals and start a new business but now, I’m struggling financially.” And he turned around. He said to me, “That Tony Robbins really messed up your life, didn’t he?”. We all had a bit of a laugh.
Then he asked me about my relationships. And in an instant, my face changed. I was quite happy. I started talking about my wife, and my two kids at a time and how happy I was because of them. How great my relationships with my kids were. Then he stopped me and he turned around to the crowd and he asked, “How many of you would give up everything you have to be in his position right now?” I turned around and half the room had their hands up. These were people that had been talking for days about their multimillion-dollar businesses and all the money they had and all the fun and all the financial freedom that they had. They had their hands up to give up all the money they had just to be where I am in having a happy relationship and a happy family.
Most of them complained about not having good relationships. It was a profound moment in my life. It was at that time when I realized that I am the richest man in the world. And it was because I had what most people in today’s society are struggling to find. And that is happiness within themselves, happiness within their relationships. It was at that time I realized, I’ve already got what I need in life, the money and everything else will come. And that’s when I actually started succeeding in everywhere else, my mindset got better, my health got better, my finances got better because I no longer valued myself on wealth. Although we all love material things, these will not make us happier. We can’t take these things when we leave this world. So for me, I started measuring my success with the level of intimacy I had with my wife and the level of connection I had with my boys and then everything else seemed so much easier to measure against.
Now, this particular young gentleman I was talking to today and I see these little lot of young guys, lots of men today just don’t know what it means to be an actual man. Many of them get swayed by different things in social media, television, movies, etc. And then they don’t actually find out their true manhood and what it means for them to be a man until something drastic happens in their lives. That’s what I’m focusing on. So if you’re a guy who’s out there, you’re thinking about finding your calling in life, how to be content and happy with everything you have, and how to succeed in every other part of your life, then you have to start by finding out your purpose. And that’s what I do with my clients. I help my clients find their purpose and set goals in every aspect of their lives. So if you have any questions, reach out and let me know your thoughts.