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Do You Self-Sabotage Your Own Success? - wassim

Do You Self-Sabotage Your Own Success?

  1.     Signs Your Self-Sabotaging Your Success 
  2.       If You Often Behave Like This, You Are Sabotaging Your  Success
  3.       Common Sign Of Self Sabotaging Behavior

Do You Self-Sabotage Your Own Success?
I was in CPR training and one of the speakers or the trainer was talking about dangers. One of the things she was talking about was identify the date, the doctor’s ABC and identify the danger when you’re in a situation where you’re going to do first aid. Her language started to come out and that everything in life is a danger. I just sat there and listened to her and I’m thinking, well, her beliefs are really coming out in the way that she talks.

I sat there and started to watch her the whole time throughout the training and the language she uses and the things that she was saying about her. All of it was coming out in her language, a lot of her beliefs about life and dangers from external people. And dangers and everything around life. The other example she gave was, someone’s being injured and you want to help them and it’s guaranteed that someone’s going to do this or was going to do that, like someone’s going to steal their stuff, someone’s going to take the videos and put on YouTube and Facebook and social media, etc. I start thinking this person really has a belief system and a trust issue with the people she doesn’t know. So she’s got “stranger danger” I suppose.
 
We all have this. I guess this is part of growing up where we get out negative self-beliefs, or negative beliefs, in general. And the reality is, one thing I’ve learned in NLP, that in life, our language patterns that we use says a lot about us and who we are. It establishes the belief system. Growing children between the ages of one to seven don’t have a belief system. They’re still absorbing everything. That is the time we start creating our belief systems about life, people, and certain situations. A child won’t know that a hot plate is hot and they’ll burn until they touch it and then bang, they’ve learned that this thing is hot and they shouldn’t be touching it. So during that time, and even as adults, we continue to do that, we continue to create beliefs about certain situations in different people create different beliefs.

I don’t know the whole story. What I do know is something probably happened where she had a negative situation then she created a belief system about it. So there is actually a very, very specific way in which we create beliefs in life. And this is, and something that once we identify that about ourselves or about others, we can actually help break through that or break through it ourselves. So the first thing that happens is we have an experience — whether it’s a positive experience, whether it’s a negative experience, whether it’s a neutral experience — from that experience, it actually creates an emotion or we have an emotional response to it.

 
That emotional response will then be either positive, negative or neutral. From there, we start to create a story and that story we tell ourselves, if this happens, then X, Y, and Z is gonna happen. And then we start looking for evidence to support our story. Once we find enough evidence and we keep telling ourselves this, then we start to create a belief and we start putting ourselves in the chains and shackles of these false negative beliefs. Now it’s very, very easy to identify from the outside. If you’re present, if you’re open minded and you looking, identifying, analyzing people’s language, you’ll be able to identify and understand what they’re actually saying and what it actually means when they say something. For example, like I said, the woman today, a number of stories she gave throughout the day showed me that she has a lot of mistrust about people She knows stranger danger. So for her it was everything. Everything in the world is danger. If a bad situation happens, someone’s against you. If you’re, you’re not, you’re knocked out or if you’re injured and you know, you can’t defend yourself someone’s going to take advantage of you. All the things have shown me that she has a belief system around strangers, and she doesn’t trust strangers. You could actually see it in a way she started her off the session. She had walls up. She was actually quite reserved. And as she got to know people in the session, she became more relaxed and became herself, and she was a lovely lady. She was a very nice lady. She was actually very, very friendly. Obviously, she just has that as a protection or as a defense mechanism.

My question to you is something that you may want to think about switching over the weekend is what are some language patterns that you use that really identify your inner belief system? You know, it could be something that you use regularly, like, you know, always have bad luck or, “I’m not good at these so I’m not good at that” or “I don’t deserve this.” And little things, little stories that you tell yourself. Remember, first of all, I have an experience from that experience. You start looking for evidence and then you start yourself a story. And if you tell yourself a story enough, then it becomes a belief and becomes most of the time, a lot of the time not, you know, most people will have a negative belief when they put this off in the chase on this negative belief, which hinders them from creating and manifesting the life that they want.

Now it’s most, a lot of the times that you’re very, very easy to overcome that once you identify and you’re willing to be vulnerable and say, “Yes, I have this negative belief, this is holding me back. This is stopping me from achieving the life that I know and deserve.” Once you’ve identified that, then you can work with someone to actually help you overcome that. And this is something that I’ve had to myself do many, many times over the years, even 16 years into personal development, I still come up with negative beliefs. Even these days with social media, some of us have an addiction to social media because we’re addicted to always refreshing and having something new would come up and this is actually real addiction that comes from gambling.

If you’re finding that you’re constantly saying things that, or it is a certain language pattern that’s gone on in your head or language pattern that you’re saying over and over again in stories that you chill and you always look for the evidence and this is actually stopping you from achieving what you want. It might be time for you to have a look at how you can overcome this and really go out and achieve the life that you want.
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